Fits of Wit

Balance is a Bitch

Adulthood is all about balance. Time management, working, spending time with loved ones, attempting to get eight hours of sleep, exercising, etc. This blog has been a life changer for me but it eats up a lot of my time trying to post several times per week.

With trying to stay on top of FitsofWit.com I’ve had to sacrifice a few things in the process. I’ve lost my balance and I’m not cool with that.

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How I feel.

Trying to write a book has to come first in the big scheme of things. You know what else? EXERCISING. With trying to write a book AND blog a few times per week, I’ve NOT been working on my fitness. I sit all day at work, then come home and sit all evening and write. Trying to fit into any of my jeans at the moment is accompanied with me declaring my breakup with constricting denim and instead, marrying spandex.

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Me vs. skinny jeans

And so changes need to be made. I need to prioritize. I’m at the point where I feel confident that posting on the blog once a week is what’s best for me at this time. I need to spend more of my time after work diving into my book and hitting up the gym. I do have a special holiday photo project for FitsofWit during the month of December that will require little writing but hopefully a hilarious, positive response.

So bear with me, my little minions. I’ll still be reading other writer’s posts daily and I’ll still be around on Facebook and Twitter…just a little less. Until next week.

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* How do you handle the batshit balance of life? Personal experiences and advice greatly appreciated in the comments below.

39 Comments

  1. pouringmyartout

    Balance, schmalance… just strap a bungee chord to your bad self… then if you fall, you get an awesome ride.

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    1. FitsofWit

      That works until you smash into the ground.

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      1. pouringmyartout

        well… make the bungee shorter…

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  2. caronbot

    I have no idea how to twitter, so I just post asinine things twice a day.

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    1. FitsofWit

      Twitter is hard at first. I agree with you there.

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  3. Mike G.

    So much to touch on. I think first and foremost I must commend you on the mini links associated with your post today. The skinny jeans video/gif was tres amusing. How funny is it that my wife forces me to go clothes shopping for myself this weekend. You see I have the exact opposite problem. I’ve lost 30 lbs over past 2 years and as you may have guessed I am severely Caucasian. To wit the problem. I am a bony assed 50-something who heretofore had only bought relaxed for jeans. Apparently I looked like I was continually carrying a 15 LB. load of shit in my drawers. So while I am never gonna wear skinny jeans, I have graduated to the segment of society that wears clothes that actually fit.

    Regarding your need for balance I also highly commend you for your intelligent re-prioritizarion. Definitely from a cathartic and hopefully remunerative position your novel MUST come first.

    I wish I had some sage advice regarding balance. I don’t. I have observations and experiences that have worked for me and my wife and careers and family. But since our life is somewhat ideosyncratic I wouldn’t presume to tell you what worked for us. Cuz if you asked my wife or my kids you might get 4 different perspectives. Equally valid but possibly disconsonant with each other. I guess my long winded response is that you can achieve personal balance re career, health, and personal goals (writing). But you may also need to keep in mind your balance with respect to your spouse etc. From what you’ve posted before it sounds like he is both super supportive and also very lucky.

    I hope you keep posting if only weekly as I truly think you have a gift. Of course since I share your proclivities for the profane I may be biased.

    Once you finish the novel and you get to the next stage of trying to balance homework and sports and all the other crap our kids put us through we can talk about that at length. I could regale you of my wife’s feats re career, writing and raising 3 surprisingly independent young adults but I don’t want to brag.

    Finally, steer clear of Jell-O shots. Really just empty calories. Plus, no fruit to slow them down.

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    1. FitsofWit

      I LOVE the hamster gif. I am biased since I have a swagalicious pet hamster tho.
      Congrats on losing 30 pounds!
      I’ll be here weekly. I’ve already been tempted to post but I NEED to stay focused on other things.
      Empty calories/sweets are my weakness. Eating a donut right now. A coworker brought in about 50 of them and I’m pretty sure she’s trying to break me. It’s working.

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  4. Jan Moyer

    Coffee, red wine. Watching tv while I work out (multi-tasking, right?) Coffee. And yes, one post a week (occasionally more, but only when the post seems to write itself). Glad you’re not done with blogging completely.

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    1. FitsofWit

      I can do coffee but not red wine. WHITE wine however… that’s where it’s at.
      Not done with blogging. I wouldn’t be where I am without my silly blog. Love it.
      Thanks for the advice!

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      1. Jan Moyer

        I could get on board with white. Where do you stand on chocolate?

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        1. FitsofWit

          Milk chocolate. Dark chocolate is too bitter for me.

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  5. R. Todd

    Balance. I take the approach more common to what most would call, “Attempting to nail jell-o to the wall”. It doesn’t work, and I should probably try harder at figuring it out, so.. if you do figure it out, could you let me know? K, thanks.

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    1. FitsofWit

      I go through phases. Winter is usually when my balance gets out of whack. Stop working out, become lazy, more tired, stuff my face….
      If I figure out a solution I’ll let you know.

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  6. naptimethoughts

    I don’t balance. I just fall over and get back up. The injuries become routine after a while, you barely feel them.

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    1. FitsofWit

      So true. Then again, you are a cat. You almost always land on your feet.

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  7. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    I had to learn that I don’t have to read every single blog. As much as I want to, I can’t read everyone’s blog. And, I learned that I will only post a genuine comment. I will always like the post if I read it, so that you know I stopped by, but I learned that I don’t have to comment on every post I read – I just have to be genuine. And that helped me out!

    Also, blogging is low on my priority list, I would love to have a blogging schedule, but really, it fits where it fits! I stopped saying “I don’t have time”, instead, I changed time to the word “priority”. So now, I have to state whether or nothing something is a priority. “I don’t have time to work out because I’m reading/writing blogs” turned into “It’s not a priority to be healthy and work out because I’m reading/writing blogs” and you can bet my life shifted! “I don’t have time to spend with you” became “You are not a priority” and I learned really fast where I need to spend my time!

    Anywhoo… have fun getting your balance back!

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    1. FitsofWit

      Thanks! I agree with using the word priority more. I like that.

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  8. Matt

    Minus the skinny jeans thing? I totally get this.

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    1. FitsofWit

      Right? The struggle.

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  9. annieemmy

    Me too! I mean as far as trying to find a balance. Well… and the skinny jeans thing too if I’m being honest. In fact, just today I just decided that I will need to spend a little less time on the blog, more time pursuing other, more important things. Like Facebook.

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    1. FitsofWit

      I struggle with the internet as a whole. I wake up, check the internet. Throughout the workday I’m on the internet. Get home, internet. Before bed, internet.
      Like, if the internet were never invented I’d be 98% more productive.

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      1. Mike G.

        But then you’d have to hang out in the magazine aisle at the local bodega to get your porn. Thank god for the two great Al G’s. Al Goldstein and Al Gore.

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  10. Alanna

    I admire your fortitude insofar as still doing stuff. I barely have anything to do and I still slack on writing posts

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    1. FitsofWit

      You’re a college student. Embrace the slacking. One day, you won’t be able to anymore.

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  11. harveylisam

    It’s better to write less and feel good about your posts than to write stuff just to keep the posts coming! Balance is always good 🙂

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    1. FitsofWit

      I always feel good about my posts. I think that’s why they take up so much time. I write, then rewrite paragraphs, then edit. I treat my posts like they’re a presidential speech.
      Thanks for the advice.

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  12. susielindau

    I have always fought to balance. I’m writing at least 2000 words a day during NaNoWriMo. My posts usually take a day to write, but lately I’ve had about an hour. The funny thing is I get more views on the short funny ones! BONUS!

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    1. FitsofWit

      I totally agree about more views on short ones. It takes me hours to write a post as well.
      That’s awesome that you’re doing 2,000 words a day! Good luck with that!!!

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      1. susielindau

        Thank you! I’m at the halfway point….

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  13. Mark Petruska

    I find scheduled posts to be a lifesaver. Of course, finding the time to write and schedule a post is no easier than finding the time to write a post. So, umm…never mind…I got nothin’!

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    1. FitsofWit

      I JUST discovered that I can schedule posts two weeks ago.
      It’s going to save my life.

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  14. brickhousechick

    Love the GIFs you used in this post! LOL. I totally hear you. It is a very tough balance to keep. I have cut back to one post a week if that for a while until I catch up on life. 🙂

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    1. FitsofWit

      Life comes first. Good luck on your balance as well.

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  15. Mike G.

    Apologies for long winded response above. Forgot that you’re trying to trim your time on blogosphere. Will try to be shorter and pithier next time.

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    1. FitsofWit

      Don’t you dare! Just now logging in to respond to everyone’s excellent advice.
      I will respond to your long winded response momentarily.
      It’s been a busy week thus far… you know… Leonardo DiCaprio’s 40th birthday and all…

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  16. pieterk515

    Can’t stop laughing at that little guy falling down. You made my day!

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    1. FitsofWit

      Ha! I enjoyed it as well. So cute.

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  17. lisermarie2013

    Such a great post. I have trouble with balance these days too. I am trying to balance blogging, work, board games, watching movies, writing a book, eating chocolate, exercising after I eat that chocolate, cleaning my house, and actually balancing myself physically when I have vertigo. I feel like my blog suffers from it sometimes because I feel guilty telling people I can’t do something fun in real life because I am busy internetting. I need to stick to a once a week at the same time every week post in order to have more consistency.

    What if you got an exercise bike or treadmill with something that could fit a laptop on it so you could blog while working out? Okay I’m brilliant. I just solved half of our problems. Let’s start a kickstart fundraiser to get one for each of us!

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  18. FitsofWit

    My companies corporate office has treadmills and some of the people there walk on them while they work. They obviously have waaaay too much money on their hands and should throw some of it my way.

    Reply

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